A real Father

Mal 4:5-6
 "See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse." 
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There's many reasons one can never find themselves in the presence of a Father, yet how many of those reasons will stand once confronted with all that Truth is? 


Is it because more often so many don't want to truthfully consider the standard a dad (as the parental process) is being measured against enough that comparison's are never truthfully made?

Shouldn't the weight of that thought not only drive a man to his knees, but also keep him on his knee's while pleading for wisdom to complete the task?

True parenting begins with transparency. As if a window that is looked through in order for others to see the True image.

That to mean the desired and mutually understood focus upon a more exact representation that's being pursued.

Not wanting to block or obscure the view of another sometimes simply requires that the "Person" get out of the way so that others can also enjoy the "Same" scenery.

I was once asked, "When does a young man and or women know when they're mature enough to decide when to be joined in marriage"?

Marriage meaning the mutual understanding as if it were a child produced that will survive all of life's circumstances that can't  be presently seen or forecast prior to being joined together.

In this life when someone wants to find forgiveness the first thing they should do is to discover how to forgive the parent that was or is being held responsible for as if the task master over the net results of their own  parental training process.


John 6:45
It is written in the Prophets: 'They will all be taught by God.' Everyone who listens to the Father and learns from him comes to me.
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What have any of us taught our children? Especially if they never discover their own need that's also TRUE?

It's hard to be critical while witnessing the evidence in every day life as if something tangible as the product of an environment where a "Child raises a child". 

You know those images where it's a single mom/dad trying to raise a child that are not only failing but are also miserable becuase they know they are? Or maybe the situation where both natural parents seem forever hard pressed to find a way to manage the ability to find agreement?

The opposite of agreement being the miserable struggle with each other while attempting to shape and form something from the clay that's found its way into their own hands (children)?

The child that has been righteously instructed by the Lord has to somehow become thoroughly convinced as to who it was that fed their father and family from day to day in the midst of their own coming to understand their own sense of maturity.

It is the gift that's been given within the opportunity of relationship that will lead the most meager of understandings into the greater reality which all humanity was intended to truthfully consider.

As it is with law and lawlessness, said laws were intended to be used as the school master which then informs the greater understanding concerning true mercy that has been shown.

A sacrifice that comes by way of the response while truthfully considering the need for the implementation of said "Law" which effectually governs immaturity. Transparency as part of the parenting process must first make room for ones self to also be governed.

Within this process many things will surely be put to death and cease to exist to then govern the "whole" as if the predominate influence over "All members".

Herein is the best example discovered as one comes to truthful terms with respect towards their own level of maturity or lack there of.

If it is thoroughly understood that ONLY God is good AND that anything that does not come from faith is sin, only then can anyone hope to also catch a glimpse of who has been their own teacher.


2 Cor 7:10-11
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done.
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Rom 14:23
...and everything that does not come from faith is sin.
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Titus 2:3

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.
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Titus 2:4-5

Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. 
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A parent should find Godly sorrow's at work if traces of their own spiritual struggles can still be seen to the second and third generation. How else can the school master then lead any of us to repentance?

That is to say the overall parental consideration "Should NOT then lean or rely upon the reason they did not know as if an excuse. That only places blame on their own parenting experience's that did not or maybe better "Could not" find a way to teach them.

It's far to easy to suggest that it is my children's fault they did not listen, yet the more accurate depiction should be was the parent found apt to teach?

The above notion should circle back around to the question, "When are the young man and woman Ready to raise a family" and "What got in the way of that preparation"?


Rom 5:15-16
But the gift is not like the trespass . For if the many died by the trespass of the one man, how much more did God's grace and the gift that came by the grace of the one man, Jesus Christ, overflow to the many! Again, the gift of God is not like the result of the one man's sin:
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These are just a few of many questions that could be asked, but take the time to truthfully consider them.

Is a Father just a guy that thinks he just knows stuff or a man that tries to care enough by taking a hold of the time he's been given to then carve an image from it of something that is and can be Honored?

Is he just the physical presence in the home that's called upon only "After" there's a problem or is he an address where true wisdom can not only be sought out, but also found?

How does such a man prove himself to be worthy of such a high calling? Does it come by way of demand only or by way of expectation that's been shadowed by an easily understood example he places on display?

Is he honored or simply tolerated?

Is his counsel respected, rejected or simply ignored?

Has an environment been set in place and maintained to where everything at work converges at the location where wisdom does reside?

Is he seen as just that certain someone to blame and then despise for all future problems or is he that specific person you've since learned you should have listened to when the sound of his voice was available?

Do you see him seated alone at the top of all that he seems thoroughly convinced of or does he get to enjoy the company next to those that have revered and embraced his intentions and efforts put forth to date?

It's easy to start a family, yet having the tools needed to maintain that family will evolve into something greater than meeting the need for simply more food, water clothing, shelter or vacation.